Exegetes typically interpret ‘the elect lady’ (ἐκλεκτὴ κυρία) in 2 John 1 as symbolising ‘a church’. However, this article analyses the use of κυρία in ancient private letters and inscriptions, proposing that in 2 John, the title serves as a polite address for a woman leader, not a church. The use of the title κυρία in 2 John 1 is consistent with the epistolary convention addressing a woman recipient within a family context in ancient letters. In ancient private correspondence, if the letter writer and the recipient were well acquainted, it was feasible for the recipient to be unnamed with the address κυρία on the recto of the letter. In such cases, the name of κυρία could be written on the verso of the letter. The phrase ἐκκλησία κυρία in ancient civic inscriptions should not be interpreted as a symbolic representation of a community as a ‘lady’, but rather as a designation of a ‘regular (κυρία) assembly’. Consequently, our analysis leads to the conclusion that 2 John can be read as a letter of exhortation providing pastoral guidance to a woman leader.